The parent knows very well in the value that studies pair of children, be opposite generally the child's expectation is taller, virtually can transfer pressure to the child, some is flat and direct apply to the child pressure, if raise highbrow requirement to the child, angst is more when in seeing the child is not treated seriously, be being taken an examination of, abreact the mood on child body then... this kind of practice of the parent, cause contradictory become acute easily, have very big negative effect to the psychology of the child before taking an examination of. How to create favorable environment, let the child develop optimal standard in sweet, comfortable atmosphere? The following is worth parents to notice:
Value of expectation of avoid by all means is exorbitant
Many parents love " should check how much branch at least " , " must go up such-and-such high school " the word of and so on is hanged in mouth edge, little imagine, such doing do not have incentive effect not only, can let the child send pessimistic, angst more instead, create needless psychological pressure to the child. During be being taken an examination of in, first job of the parent knows the child's state correctly namely, admit the child's current situation, do not raise highbrow requirement. You might as well tell the child: "Wanted the greatest effort to go only! "Wanted the greatest effort to go only!!
Avoid by all means creates nervous atmosphere
During some parents take an exam, can make painstakingly piece " No. One alert " condition, if ask for leave to be done in the home " full-time logistics " , do not open TV to wait absolutely in the evening. Actually, such doing can let the child feel instead depression, be worried. Well-advised practice is, the parent should do what why on earth, avoid to appear to produce the event of negative effect to the child's psychology as far as possible at the same time, if husband and wife quarrels,wait.
Avoid by all means hits child self-confidence
During be being taken an examination of in the heart, the parent should be encouraged to the child, affirmative, do not criticize at every turn, censure. When the child feels the exam suffers a defeat, scold a meeting to let the child lack self-confidence more blindly, abandonment even.
Avoid by all means is vixenish
Greet in the child during taking an examination of, total love of a few parents relapses before the child talk about again and again " you should increase an interest! " " you must have been taken an examination of! " wait, this lets child generation easily go against turn over psychology, aggravating thought package. You have nagging time, be inferior to child jest, the nerve that lets him is loosened.