Before attending drawing class, of Dan Dan with the desk is graceful graceful say to Dan Dan: "Your paintbrush is really good-looking! "Attended class to borrow one branch with her later, but was not returned all the time later, not be to forget it seems that returned, do not want to return however. Dan Dan is right her paintbrush very treasure, however not dare Xiang Nana is gotten back come, go following mom complain tearfully then. Her mom is found graceful, ask her Xiang Dandan lent one branch paintbrush, graceful graceful say: "Several people borrowed. "The result still is not returned. Through the inquiry, red red mom discovers this kind of case has appeared really more than. She feels very bemused, seek advice to me: "I do not care so one branch pen. If my advocate wants to know, why dare Dan Dan want to reply his thing. Why dare Dan Dan want to reply his thing..
Dan Dan's expression, it is a problem that deserves research really. We have a look first, a child won't refuse when the classmate rents a stuff with him, the likelihood has a few kinds of reasons:
The first kind, fear people does not play with him. If a child is special,fear alone, leave associate to be being done not have downfallen, talk with young associate at ordinary times for company is careful, the family wants what thing, rapidly submissively gives free, differ even the family will want, send actively come to go. After this kind of child gave others the thing, it is to won't feel distressed commonly, won't regret. Dan Dan looks do not belong to this kind.
The 2nd kind, good outer part. We know to have some of person socially very tell outer part, people of for fear that says him " does not know " of the ways of the world. They to take care of face, often do a few against one's will thing. Have a meal in restaurant for instance, know obviously ought not to oneself draw out money, but the other side is not active, oneself are forced to expert one, return the hard to avoid in the home to have complaint however. This kind of social conduct is likely to the child some are affected. If Dan Dan's parent is special,be concerned about face-saving, so do not reject a kind of Dan Dan to may belong to this.
The 3rd kind, recreant. The requirement that some children raise to others does not agree in the heart obviously, also say to be not exported. If Dan Dan's disposition compares introversion, at ordinary times not talktive, attend class not to love to make a speech, endure a classmate sometimes bully, endure little boy especially bully, so do not refuse of Dan Dan, the likelihood is to attribute this kind of situation.
The 4th kind, without rejection convention and skill. Refusing also is a kind of habit actually. Lack rejects the child of experience, cannot start to talk refuse. The child may not lack rejection courage, but he feels direct to say " not " some at odds, won't other argument, because this is forced,oneself are being borne.
Want to help the child, the parent should make clear his child attributes which kind of situations first.
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